Two months?

[hartmans]

I broke up with Susan somewhat under a year ago. It seems longer. In reflecting on what I wanted to do next, I realized that I wanted to try and work on taking advantage of opportunities as they became available. I felt that I had been missing out on potential friendships and relationships because I was moving somewhat too slow: I took too long pondering whether someone was actually interested or how to best respond and life intervened. It turns out that this has been a real problem. Over the past year I learned about several opportunities ranging back as far as 14 years ago that I missed because of timing or lack of perception. Some of these were opportunities for deeper friendships, some potentially for fulfilling relationships. I wasn't going out of my way to look for missed opportunities in the past—doing so seems unhealthy or creepy—but I was thinking about the problem and when you do that, you seem to just happen to run into data that interests you.

Over some time between a week ago and two weeks ago, I've fallen into a new relationship. I think I'm nearing the end of the initial exploration part of the relationship where you end up spending insane quantities of time with your new lover; things may be calming down a bit. We were realizing how much had changed in the last week and were discussing when we had first met. I went back through email logs and realized that we met April 15. Before that time we'd never interacted at all.

Two months! Sure, I am working on taking advantage of opportunities, avoiding unnecessary doubt and improving situational timing. But two months from not knowing each other at all to being important in each others' lives. I'm not sure whether to be delighted, shocked, scandalized or amused. I think I'll be all of the above and enjoy the situation as it unfolds. I can afford to just live for the most part. Sure, there are things to consider, problems that will develop, but I can worry about that in the fullness of time.

Comments

[hartmans]

I was asked whether I was trying to be private about who I'm seeing.n
Mostly the answer is that I feel it is my place to talk in a public
forum about myself. I don't feel that it is my place to talk about
others without their permission.

[thomb.livejournal.com]

Of course we all have the same curiosity. :) Things will be public if and when that's appropriate. All I can say is, yippee! Enjoy.

[laura47.livejournal.com]

Hey, congratulations! I wish you the best.

Sometimes these things happen *really fast*. It's fun and scary that way. :)

[bigkidruth.livejournal.com]

I agree with Laura, Congrats! And, I gotta tell you that I'm so happy for you. I'm glad you're trusting your instincts.

Woman of mystery

[(Anonymous)]

*gryn* For those of you who haven't met me and actually read months-old livejournal entry comments, this is me:

Shava Nerad (an interesting name to google...)
shava@efn.org
http://www.efn.org/~shava/
http://shava.blogspot.com/

Feel free to say hi, if you read this. I don't bite. Hard. Unless I really like you and you like being bit hard. ;)

I just happened to run into Sam's old email telling me he was blogging me tonight looking for another piece of information...

Seeya!
Shava